I got a call today from a female colleague asking me if I had seen this new Gillette commercial and then explaining how wonderful it is and the impact it would have. She has been extremely supportive of me in all that I have been through with a past relationship so, of course, she thought I would be beyond excited about this message. I immediately googled the commercial and eagerly watched it. You see last year I had to escalate a situation I ran into during one of the national calls I held as the Women’s Leadership & Inclusion National Franchise Lead at work to our Global HR department. Women and men colleagues were concerned for obvious reasons – both sides of the issue and the company had to figure out the best way to address the situation. Of course, the company had to proceed with caution.
As a strong supporter of women and especially inspiring young women, my passion, I have struggled with the direction this movement has taken, in all honesty. Believe me, I respect anyone standing up for something they feel passionate about so I found it hard to criticize the women who were a part of the women’s march; however, I could hardly look at those pink hats that represented female genitalia without cringing, and I had friends wear them. I thought to myself, “you know this is great, empowering women, but how has it gotten to this?” Why not crowns?
What does it mean to be called a lady?
You can use lady when you are referring to a woman, especially when you are showing politeness or respect… if you say that a woman is a lady, you mean that she behaves in a polite, dignified, and graceful way.
(Thank you, Dr. Google!)
I know I wouldn’t want to watch a bunch of men marching in the streets with male genitalia on their heads. #mentoo No thank you! The unwelcomed pic I received from the oh so kind man who fixed my car was bad enough.
In all fairness, if we are telling men how they need to be acting then shouldn’t we do the same with women? This whole movement started with great intentions and by no means do I think a man has a right to disrespect, demean, verbally or physically abuse a woman. However, I feel bad for the true gentlemen. Men that show up at the office every day and feel as if they can’t even tell a friend that she looks nice, or give a friendly hug. We hug at our company – I LOVE my company. It is truly a beautiful place to work. We also talk about our faith and we respect each others’ differences.
Men and women are biologically different. Our brains are programmed differently. “Boys will be boys”… well, yes they will. I mean come on ladies. I know I want a man to act like a man. I am by no means supporting President Trump for his comments, ok. Yes, I voted for him and support him in all his twitter madness, but we all make mistakes and say things we’d like to take back. Nobody is perfect. We really need a happy middle ground with so many issues right now in this country – the divide is real and greatly affecting so many.
My Father, my rock, a true gentleman, has made plenty of comments. Heck, so have I. Who am I? I am a mom, a sister, a daughter, an educator and a leader. I feel that leaders need to continue speaking up and help unify a lot right now, quite frankly. We need to set the example for the younger generation – absolutely, just like the commercial says. Only, it goes both ways. I do believe P&G had good intentions. I honestly don’t think big companies know what to do – they just want to do good, just like the women who march for women’s rights and support this movement wholeheartedly.
Let’s ask ourselves what we want the future to look like? Women supporting women? Men treating women with respect and dignity? Kids saying please and thank you? I am throwing this out there, but take a look at some of the pictures being posted on social media. I feel bad that our young girls think that they have to portray themselves a certain way to get attention – or so they think they do. Ask your teenagers about the apps you don’t know about – the ones where they send private pictures to one another. Sexy? What is sexy? Who is to blame? Porn needs to be better regulated. I don’t have all the answers and I think we could point fingers all day long.
“Intelligence is sexy” – Anonymous
I was chatting with a friend the other night. She owned and ran a Charm school and taught etiquette classes. I asked her to bring them back, begged her to actually. Manners, values, God driven morals.
Also, to throw this out there for anyone struggling with the same issue: I was re-examining goals for the year with my financial adviser and realized that I am not 100% sure that I want to climb the corporate ladder anymore. I have been faced with some professional decisions lately and everyone knows that I don’t turn much down because – I can do it all. You mean you can’t? The pressure is real! Women are achieving everything men are, and rightfully so. Women are powerful, strong, beautiful, sexy and that’s something they should be proud of.
Men are facing their own challenges these days. What defines masculinity? I like it when a man opens a door for me. Do you know men have told me that they get criticized for holding the doors for women these days because women can do it on their own? Of course, we can. Isn’t it nice to have some things done for you? I mean my TV is leaning up against the wall right now because I need a man’s strength to get it done. Not to mention, I have asked my Dad twice to help me remove the chair I no longer want from my living room. I don’t have the strength of a man no matter how many pilates reformer classes I take. Those push-ups (eye roll). No offense to my instructors.
As a mother of a teenager, I want her to feel empowered to do and be whatever she sets her mind and heart to. I also want her to be respectful, use manners, pray to God daily and act like a lady. What a beautiful little lady she is. #proudmom #metoo